When D isn't here, I start thinking, and that is not a good thing. Why is it that when we're left alone with our own thoughts, they tend to go straight for the giant elephant in the room you've been dodging? I guess cause it's a giant elephant that can't be avoided. A friend once told me that there are two types of people in the world: the people who avoid the elephant and the people that scare the crap out of the avoiders by shouting "HOLY CRAP! There's a huge elephant that's about to take a BIG dump on our party!" The people who point out the obvious do so thinking that the avoiders will say "Oh thank goodness you said something! We've got to get that elephant out of here before it poops on everything!" The truth is, they rarely do. Usually they are angered and if they do say thanks, it's a sarcastic one along the lines of "thanks for ruining our good time."
One day, someone needs to explain the avoiders to me. Why wouldn't you want to address the elephant situation before it craps on our parade? In the past several months I've realized over and over again that these are the two types of people the exist. I understand why the people point out the elephant because that is who I am as a person. But for some reason, I still can't understand why the avoiders get angry about it.
What I've come to understand is that avoiders will avoid EVERYTHING that may negatively effect them. Which means that when the elephant does decide to crap on the party, they are certainly not going to volunteer to clean up the poop. They simply step over it and hope it goes away. Which leaves the rest of us, left behind with our burning nostrils, trying to clean up the shit.
Oh do I hate giant pooping elephants.
Advice from a fellow pooper scooper that I thought I'd share:
ReplyDelete"You got the message darlin... And unfortunately, will either spend your entire life doing one of four things:
1) always carry a large pooper scooper and get used to cleaning up the messes that other people have ignored and allowed to happen.
2) learn to swallow your urge to tell the truth and point out the obvious... Thereby denying your true self. Eventually this will make you sick. Possibly from the irony of you ignoring your OWN problem...
3) continue telling the truth about the giant pooping elephant in the room - and allow those people who call you names to tear down your self esteem, make you doubt yourself and your integrity and spend your life feeling guilty about "being a crazy bitch."
4) continue telling the truth about the giant pippin elephants in the room and learn to rise above the negative chatter. Know yourself and feel pride in you... Take heart in the idea that every time someone calls you a crazy bitch it's because you forced them to look at something inside themselves that they are not proud of... And their name calling has nothing to do with you, but is lashing out - driven by shame of themselves. For that's really the only reason anyone ever lashes out at others... It's a mirroring of the shame of what they cannot love inside themselves. It's always interesting to note - pay attention while you're being attacked: invariably the epithets being hurled at you are more fitting descriptions of the screamer. :-).
Beware: option 4 is the hardest of all roads... But I for one believe you're up for it."